Docs: getting started says what is retried and what waits for the next start

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 5.5 <noreply@anthropic.com>
Claude-Session: https://claude.ai/code/session_01GT37Z1Xtfd9pUuQtMTg6Yt

docs/getting-started.md

@@ -104,8 +104,10 @@ At start, portal:
    questions, with their link. With `RESPONSIBLE_GROUP` they all join
    it; someone who already had an account is added without a mail.
 
-Kanidm may still be starting beside portal, so a failed attempt is
-tried again, a minute apart. The log says what happened, per person.
+Kanidm may still be starting beside portal, so the first person's
+invite is tried again a minute apart, up to twenty times. A responsible
+person who could not be set up is left for the next start. The log says
+what happened, per person.
 
 ## 5. The rest come in from the desks
 
@@ -113,7 +115,6 @@ From here nobody touches Kanidm:
 
 - **At a desk**, whoever may invite fills in a name and an address.
   Portal makes the account, adds them to the group, and mails the link.
-  The invites sent are listed on that desk.
 - **A decision can be the invitation.** A state with `grants: group`
   in `aggregates.yaml` puts the person a case is about into that group
   when the case arrives there - an approved committee application that